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You Raise Me Up- Jill Raiguel MFT

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          Songs like “You Raise Me Up” are my musical friends; you probably have songs like that too. Music that lifts you up, that inspires you; that brings back wonderful memories of whom you were dancing with  or what you are doing.

            Maybe 10 years ago now, I heard Josh Groban sing “You Raise Me Up,” and that inspired me to study voice again. I didn’t want to be a baritone like Josh, but I wanted the freedom and ease and richness that his voice has.  I have been studying ever since, and my singing has brought me great joy.

During these years, “You Raise Me Up” has become a musical friend.  I’ve sung it at my church, at two memorial services and at a wedding.   I always smile even when I sing it in the shower. But, my favorite performance of “You Raise Me Up” was for my favorite teacher of all time, Mr. Blair.

I auditioned for his church choir, and presented the choir director with my idea: I told him Mr. Blair was my fifth grade teacher who become a wonderful family friend. I’d like to sing this song and dedicate it to him.  The choir director loved the idea! So, on the appointed Sunday, he hid me behind the piano until my solo.  Then, I stood up and sang.  Mr. Blair was so surprised.  One month later he died quite suddenly. His family, friends and thousands of former students were shocked and so was I.  But I am so glad I had let him know that he had raised me up.

So, I invite you to let a person that is important to you, that has raised you up,… let him or her know the difference he or she has made in your life.  And, if you have not heard the song, give yourself a treat and listen to Josh Groban on YouTube sing it.  It has raised me up.

JILL RAIGUEL, MFT, is the author of several books and articles including her latest, Alternative Healing Beyond Recovery.  A retired psychotherapist from Kohut Psychiatric Medical Group, she has a private practice using her alternative and shamanic techniques.

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Jill Raiguel, MFT
About ten months ago, my doctor informed me that my blood pressure was too high. I was concerned but not surprised given the stress I’d been under for the last few years. Even with a busy practice, I had found the time to write a book. But, like a lot of us, it had taken a toll on my health. I had to create a plan to reduce my stress, and I’ll be sharing some of my plan with you. I use a specific breathing technique and visualization not only on myself, but with my patients to reduce stress, lower blood pressure and help your body and mind remember what it feels like to relax, calm and centered.
This is a fast and easy technique you can do anywhere anytime
My doctor told me, “I’m going to teach you a breathing technique that will slow you down, lower your blood pressure, and help you sleep.”
So I learned 4-7-8 breathing in about four minutes. She left me resting on her exam table to try my new breathing. Simply, breath in for four counts; hold for seven; breathe out like a candle for eight. I was to do that four times twice a day. After three weeks of regular practice using it twice daily, I could feel my stress lower when I did this.
Three months later, I’m in her office getting my blood pressure checked. “It’s a little high, but not bad.” “Give me a minute,” I said, and I did my 4-7-8 breathing. She too it again and it had dropped 25 points.
“That’s impressive, what did you do?” I explain. She says, “I need that, I have high blood pressure.”
Since then, I’ve taught 4-7-8 breathing to more than 60 people in my psychotherapy practice. I suggest they Google 4-7-8 breathing and watch You Tube Dr. Andrew Weil, well-known holistic physician. In his five-minute video, he is teaching a seminar how to do 4-7-8 breathing. Dr. Weil gently explains the technique, demonstrates it and tells some success stories. Originally from India, he does not know how it works, but he uses to help patients reduce anxiety and stress and release endorphins. I do my 4-7-8 breathing one time on my way to work and one time before I go to bed.

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Okay, I know Valentine’s Day was last week, but this was so important for me, I thought I should share it. I don’t know about you, but I used to feel left out on Valentine’s if I didn’t have a relationship or boyfriend. Everywhere I looked people were holding hands or buying each other flowers or sending cards… but not me. I felt left out, inadequate, less than. Not too long ago, I realized I could be my own Valentine. By that I mean, I could love myself, I could cherish myself whether I had a man or not. So on February 14, I buy myself a car or flowers or get a massage or do something nice just for me.
What would you do just for you? I don’t mean doing something destructive and necessarily expensive. It could be something very simple, like taking a long, hot bath.
Visit http://www.jillibean.com for more about me. Look for my new book coming out in July, 2014, on amazon.com. To pre-order email me at jillraiguel@gmail.com