HybiscusBE YOUR OWN VALENTINE – Jill Raiguel, MFT

Okay, I know Valentine’s Day is coming up. /Are you ready for hears and flowers? Are you wanting that heart-shaped box of candy?  I don’t know about you, but I used to feel left out on Valentine’s if I didn’t have  boyfriend. Everywhere I looked people were holding hands or buying each other flowers or sending cards… but not me.  I felt left out, inadequate, less than.  Not too long ago, I realized I could be my own Valentine. By that I mean, I could love myself, I could cherish myself whether I had a man or not.  So on February 14, I buy myself a card or flowers or get a massage or do something nice just for me.

What would you do just for you?  I don’t mean doing something destructive and necessarily expensive. It could be something very simple, like taking a long, hot bath.

JILL RAIGUEL, MFT, is the author of Alternative Healing Beyond Recovery as well as several books and articles. Retried from her psychotherapy practice at Kohut Psychiatric Medical Group,  she has a private practice using her innovative and shamanic techniques.  Visit or

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