Monthly Archives: December 2015

I CHOOSE JOY, NOT FEAR – JILL RAIGUEL, MFT

I CHOOSE TO FOCUS ON JOY THIS SEASON – JILL RAIGUEL, MFT

        Jack Canfield, co-author of Chicken for the Soul, said, “Let joy be your GPS.”

With the recent shootings in San Bernardino, California, we can easily get over-focused on fear.  Some may start to worry too much; and some may even get hyper-vigilant.  That means the terrorists have won; they’ve intimidated us.  And, it’s so easy to fall victim to our fears when violent news clips are plastered all over the TV and social media all day long.

Well, I choose not to be afraid and intimidated.  But as a therapist, I know I have to substitute something positive in its place.  I need to distract myself with positive images and positive messages.

Then, I happened to listen to Jack Canfield being interviewed on OWN’s Super Soul Sunday. Jack said, “Let joy be your GPS.” That was just what I needed; I choose to focus on joy. That doesn’t mean I don’t care or have compassion for victims and their families; it means I can’t get stuck on the violence and horrors.  And, as a highly sensitive person, I can do that easily.

What gives me joy?  Singing my favorite Christmas carols; visiting friends; seeing holiday lights; looking at a flower.  And, my little two-year-old neighbor saying, “Hi, Jill,” as best she can.  What gives you joy?

But Jack has a bigger message than just what brings you joy.  He means use joy as your inner guidance system.  If what I’m doing brings me joy, its right. That tells me I to keep it in my life.  If not, it’s not right. What a simply, but powerful message!

What gives you joy? What drains you of joy and energy?  What are you doing based on “shoulds?” So, this season I choose joy over fear.  I will be alert but not afraid.  I’ll focus on the light, and not the dark. And,  I’ll put  a sticky note on my computer that says:  LET JOY BE MY GPS.  Thanks, Jack.

Jill Raiguel, MFT, is the author of Alternative Healing Beyond Recovery, psychotherapist and shamanic soul retrieval practitioner.  Visit www.jillibean.com for more or jillraiguel@gmail.com.

Photo printed with permission from Abraham Peraza, www.abrahamperaza

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PLAYING THE GUESS-A-PRESENT GAME – JILL RAIGUEL, MFT

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        The holidays! Too busy? Too much food? Too much money?  Getting stressed just thinking about all you have to do?  Here’s a terrific antidote my family has done for years: The Guess-A-Present Game.  It’s no calories, under $10, and guaranteed to make you laugh.

Our family started this game almost 50 years ago. My dad or I would search all year long for a wild, wacky, and very silly item that we’d wrap and pass around the Christmas eve dinner table.  Each person gets a yes or no question, like: Is it a household item? Is it a food? Is it a toy? Does it have a useful function?

Over the years the guess-a-present has been such crazy things as camel nose plugs, antique hair curlers, marinated shark jerky, Japanese baby shampoo hat.  And, this year it was a yodeling pickle.  Yes, that’s right.  A plastic toy pickle. You press a button and it yodels.  A must-have item.  And, we all had a great laugh. The person who guesses correctly gets to keep the item, and needs to find the next guess-a-present.

A couple of years ago, one cousin lamented that, since she only came to visit at Thanksgiving time, she never got to play this game.  So, now we play at Thanksgiving and at Christmas eve.

I share this simple game we invented because we all need some light-hearted laughs this season.  And, some of you may actually be brave and bold and silly enough to try it at your holiday table. If you do I’d love to hear how it went.

Jill Raiguel, MFT, author of Alternative Healing Beyond Recovery, former psychotherapist at Kohut Psychiatric Medical Group, and shamanic soul retrieval practitioner.  Visit www.jillibean.com or jillraiguel@gmail.com

Printed with permission from Rosemary Goodell.  See www.rosemarygoodell.com

SENSELESS GUN VIOLENCE – Jill Raiguel, MFT

SENSELESS GUN VIOLENCE – Jill Raiguel, MFT

        With the horrible shootings in San Bernardino, California, we have had 355 shooting with four or more injuries in this country just this year.  Isn’t that enough to STOP the sale of automatic weapons? Isn’t that enough to pass reasonable gun control laws.

At his recent news conference, President Obama said, “We have a no-fly list, but those same people can by guns.”  What’s wrong with that picture? Let’s put a stop to this now!

Jill Raiguel, MFT, author of Alternative Healing Beyond Recovery. Visit http://www.jillibean.com or jillraiguel@gmail.com

Printed with permission of Abraham Peraza. See www.abrahamperaza.com